
Do you ever go back and read old blog posts? I don't know what inspired me to do this tonight... well, actually I do. With it being Valentines Day yesterday, and all, I have been thinking a lot about past Valentines Days, particularly the last two. It's strange sometimes to remember that Nathan was gone for an entire two years. You'd think the memory would still be fresh in my mind, but sometimes it really feels unreal that he was ever gone. So I wanted to go back and remember how I was feeling on/ around Valentines Day 2009 and 2010. And then I got caught reading my old thoughts- for about an hour and a half. What kind of DMA student has that kind of time? The kind who's husband works until 11:00 pm. The kind who needs night relaxation time. The kind who needs something to do while she listens to 5 CDs worth of Bach Suite #5 to subconsciously glean artistic interpretation. The kind who seriously needed a break from responsibility for a little while.
So I read about myself. And I was inspired. I think it is very good to look back like this, because although time marches persistently forward, often we don't. What I mean is that it would be awesome if we could always be consistently progressing forward toward being exactly the kind of people we want to be, but as human beings, I think we tend to ebb and flow. It was very interesting to read myself at some seriously low points. I remember exactly how I felt, and the decisions and circumstances that put me there. In contrast, it was also good for me to read myself being brave and strong. I read myself bearing testimony of what I know is true. I read about wonderful memories and favorite friends.
I know this probably sounds weird, but I felt like I was reacquainting me with myself. I think I have probably only posted wonderful things about being married- and being married is a huge chunk of wonderful. But it has also been a big life change!! And change is always hard, even if it is welcome. Really though, looking back over the past year, life is QUITE different now than it was at this time 2010. And it's funny to admit it, because I have been very happy, but I feel like I needed a good reminding of who I really am- who I have been- and who I like being. I hope this is making sense. Reading my past helped me realize that maybe I have been suffering (I don't know if that's the right word...) from a mild marriage identity crisis.
But let me tell you what I learned. Or what stood out to me most this time around. I am strong and brave, and good at being independent. I can do hard things. Making smart decisions makes me happy. But when I'm not happy, I can usually dust off and move on. I'm pretty good at that. I remembered that I have wonderful friends and a support network that reaches farther than I remember sometimes. I am often silly and dramatic. I procrastinate, and I am scared of the unknown. I love Nathan Morris with all of my heart.
The last two years were definitely full of ups and downs. Looking back, I can tell that I was in quite a transitionary phase of life. But now that the future is less up in the air, I need to remember to still be my brave, strong, determined, happy, silly, dramatic, audacious self.
This is who I am, and who I have been for years. Things like this don't change with a new last name. And I needed a good post-Valentines Day reflecting to remember.